Being the Will of God

“For This Is the Will of God, Your Sanctification . . .”   1 Thess. 4:3

The will of God is not about finding the right person, getting the right job, etc., it is about being the man/woman God has call you to be. His will is already revealed in Scripture.

“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path” (Psa. 119:105). Did you know the NT instructs us in over 450 ways of holy obedience? The purpose of obedience is to glorify God. Paul was convinced that he had received grace and his apostleship “to bring about the obedience of faith for the sake of His name among the nations” (Romans 1:5).

Knowing these expectations and instructions will allow us to “be filled with the knowledge of his will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so as to walk In a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of the Lord” (Col. 1:9, 10)

The motivation to learn and follow these instructions include:

  • It is God’s word instructing us how to live.
  • 2 Peter 1:8, tells us that following the instruction of the word of God will “keep you from being ineffective” and that if we put into practice these instructions we “will never fall” (vs. 10).
  • The fact that “the end of all things is at hand” (1 Pet. 4:7), tells us it is important live according to God’s will, which are the instructions given in scripture.
  • We are given a direct warning of the danger in neglecting the instructions from scriptures in Hebrews 2:1: “pay much closer attention to what we have heard, lest we drift away”


1:7 “the righteous shall live by faith.”

6:11 “consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ”

6:12 “Let not sin therefore reign in you mortal bodies to make you obey their passions”

6:13 “Do not present your members to sin as instruments of unrighteousness”

6:13 “but present yourselves to God . . . and your members to God as instruments for righteousness.”

6:14 “For sin will have no dominion over you . . .”

6:19 “So now present your members as slaves to righteousness leading to sanctification.”

8:13 “Put to death the deeds of the body”

12:1 “Present your bodies as a living sacrifice”

12:2 “Do not be conformed to this world”

12:2 “Be transformed by the renewal of your mind”

12:3 “not to think of yourself more highly than you ought to think”

12:3 “to think with sober judgment”

12:9 “Let love be genuine”

12:9 “abhor what is evil”

12:9 “hold fast to what is good”

*12:10 Love one another with brotherly affection”

12:10 “ out do one another in showing honor”

12:11 “do not be slothful in zeal”

12:11 “Be fervent in spirit”

12:11 “Serve the Lord”

12:12 “rejoice in hope”

12:12 Be patient in tribulation”

12:12 “be constant in prayer”

12:13 “contribute to the needs of the saints”

12:13 “seek to show hospitality”

12:14 “bless those who persecute you, bless do not curse them”

12:15 “Rejoice with those who rejoice”

12:15 “weep with those who weep”

12:15 “live in harmony with one another”

12:16 “do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly”

12:16 “Never be conceited”

12:17 “Repay no one evil for evil”

12”17 “Give thought to doing what is honorable in the sight of all”

12:18 “so far as it depends upon you, live peaceably with all”

12:19 “Never avenge yourselves”

12:20 “If your enemy is hungry feed him”

12:20   “If he is thirsty, give him something to drink”

12:21 “Do not be overcome by evil”

12:21 “Overcome evil with good”

*12:13 “Be subject to governing authorities”

13:6 “Pay taxes”

13:7 Pay to all what is owed them”

13:7 “respect to whom respect is owed, honor to whom honor is owed”

13:8 “Owe no one anything, except to love each other”

13:13 “Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies, drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and jealousy”

13:14 “Put on the Lord Jesus Christ”

13:14 “Make no provision for the flesh to gratify its desires”

14:1 “As to the weak in faith, welcome him

14:1 “do not quarrel over opinions”

14:13 “let us not pass judgment on one another any longer”

14:13 “ never put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of another”

*14:19 “so then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual up building”

14:20 “so not for the sake of food destroy the work of the God”

15:1 “Bear with the failings of the weak”

15:2 “Please your neighbor for it is good to build him up”

15:7 “Welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God”

16:17 “Watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles”

16:19 “Be wise as to what is good and innocent as to what is evil”


1 Corinthians

1:11 “Be united in the same mind and same judgment”

1:31 “Let the one who boasts, boast in the Lord”

3:18 “Let no one deceive himself”

3:18 “if anyone thinks he is wise, let him become a fool, that he may become wise.”

3:21 “Let no one boast in men”

4:5 “Do not pronounce judgment before the time”

4:6 “that you may learn by us not to go beyond what is written”

4:6 “that none of you be puffed up”

4:11 “Not to associate with anyone”

5:11 “not to associate with anyone . . . guilty of sexual immorality . . .”

5:13 “Purge the evil person from among you”

6:1 “when one of you has a grievance against another . . .” (Handle it among yourselves, rather than before earthy judges)

6:7 “To have lawsuits at all with one another is already a defeat for you. Why not rather suffer wrong? Why not rather be defrauded?”

6:9, 10 “Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral . . .will inherit the kingdom of God.”

6:15 “Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never!”

6:18 “Flee from sexual immorality.”

6:20 “So glorify God in your body.”

7:2 “But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man/woman should have his/her own husband/wife.”

7:3 “give conjugal rights

7:5 “do not deprive one another that you may devote yourselves to prayer;”

7:5 “ . . . then come together again” (sexually).

7:9 “If they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry”

7:10 “A wife should not separate from her husband”

7:11 “(but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband)”

7:11 “and the husband should not divorce his wife”

717” “let each person leas the life that the Lord has assigned to him, an to which God has called him”

7:20 “remain in the condition to which you were called”

7:24 In whatever condition each was called, there let him remain with God”

7:29 “those who have wives live as though they had none”

8:9 “but take care that this right of yours does not become a stumbling block to the weak”

9:24 “so run that you may obtain it (the prize)”

*10:7 “do not be idolaters”

10:8 “We must not indulge in sexual immorality

10:9 “we must not put Christ to the test”

10:10 “nor grumble”

10:12 ‘let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall”

*10:14 “Flee from idolatry”

10:21 “You cannot drink the cup of the Lord and the cup of demons”

10:24 “let no one seek his own good, but the good of his neighbor”

10:31 “do all for the glory of God”

10:32 “Give no offence to Jews or to Greeks or to the church of God”

11:1 “be imitators of me, as I am of Christ”

11:6 “Let a woman cover her head”

11:7 “a man should not cover his head”

11:28 “let a person examine himself

11:33 “wait for one another (when you eat)”

12:31 “earnestly desire the higher gifts.”

13:4 How to love: “patience, kindness, don’t envy, don’t boast’ don’t be arrogant,

don’t insist on your own way, don’t be irritable, don’t be resentful

14:1 “ Purse love”

14:1 “earnestly desire the spiritual gifts, especially that you may prophesy”

14:12 “strive to excel in building up the church”

14:20 “ Do not be children in your thinking. Be infants in evil. But in your thinking be mature”

*14:26 “let all things be done for building up”

14:34 “women should keep silent in the church”

15:33 “do not be deceived; bad company ruins good morals”

15:34 “wake up from your drunken stupor”

15:34 “do not go on sinning”

15:58 “be steadfast”

15:58 “be unmovable”

15:58 “be always abounding in the work of the Lord”

16:13 “Be watchful

16:13 “stand firm in the faith”

16:13 “act like men”

16:14 “let all that you do be done in love”


2 Corinthians

6:1 do “not receive the grace of God in vain”

6:13 “widen your hearts also”

16:14 “do not be unequally yoke to unbelievers”

7:1 “let us cleanse ourselves from every defilement of body and spirit”

7:1 “bring holiness to completion in the fear of God”

*10:17 “let the one who boast, boast in the Lord”

13:5 “Examine yourselves”

13:5 “test yourselves”

13:11 “Aim for restoration”

13:11 “aim for comforting one another”

*13:11 “live in peace”

13:12 “greet one another with a holy kiss.”



4:12 “Brothers, I entreat you, become as I am”

5:1 “stand firm therefore,”

5:1 “stand firm therefore, and do no submit again to a yoke of slavery”

5:13 “For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh”

5:13 “through love serve one another”

5:14 “You shall love your neighbor as yourself”

5:15 “But if you bite and devour one another, watch out that you are not consumed by one another.”

5:16 “walk by the spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh”

5:19 “Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, etc., etc. those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God”

5:24 “And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires”

5:25 “If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit”

5:26 “Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.”

6:1 “If anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness.”

6:1: “Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.”

6:2 “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”

6:3 “If anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself.”

6:4 “But let each one test his own work . . .”

6:5 “For each will have to bear his own load.”

6:6 “One who is taught the word must share all good things with the one who teaches.”

6:7 “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.”

6:9 “Let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”

6:10 “as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.”



1:4 “that we should be holy and blameless before him”

2:10 “created in Christ Jesus for good works . . . that we should walk in them”

2:12 “remember that you were at that time separated from Christ, alienated . . . strangers . . . having no hope and without God in the world.”

3:13 “So I ask you not to lose heart over what I am suffering for you, which is your glory.”

*4:1 “I therefore, . . . urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called”

4:2 “walk in a manner worthy of the calling . . . with all humility . . .”

4:2 “walk in a manner worthy of the calling . . . with all . . . gentleness,”

4:2 “walk in a manner worthy of the calling . . . with patience,”
4:2 “walk in a manner worthy of the calling . . . bearing with one another in love,”

4:3 “walk in a manner worthy of the calling . . . eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”

4:4:11 And he gave . . . teachers . . . to equip the saints . . .until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God,”

4:14 “so we may no longer be children, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried by every wind of doctrine, human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes.”

4:15 “Speaking the truth in love,”

4:17 “that you must no longer walk as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their minds.”

4:22 “put off your old self”

4”23 “and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds”

4:24 “and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.”

4:25 “Therefore, having put away falsehood”

4:25 “let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.”

4:6 “Be angry and do not sin”

4:26 “do not let the sun go down on your anger”

4:27 “give no opportunity for the devil.”

4:28 “Let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, doing honest work with his own hands”

4:29 “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, . . .”

4:29 “ . . . but only such ads is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”

4:30 “Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God.”

4:31 “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander b e put away form you, along with all malice.”

4:32 “Be kind to one another . . .”

4:32 “Be . . . tenderhearted . . .”

*4:32 “ . . . forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

5:1 “Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children.”

5:2 “And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us . . .”

5:3 “But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.”

5:4 “Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which is out of place.”

*5:4 “let there be thanksgiving.”

5:6 “Let no one deceive you with empty words”

5:7 “Therefore do not become partners with them (sons of disobedience).”

5:8 “Walk as children of light”

5:10 “And try to discern what is pleasing to the Lord.”

5:11 “Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness,”

5:11 “instead expose them (the works of darkness)”

5:14 “Awake O sleeper, and arise from the dead . . .”

5:15 “Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise”

5:16 “making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.”

5:17 “Therefore do not be foolish”

5:17 “. . . but understand what the will of the Lord is.”

5:18 “And do not get drunk with wine . . .”

5:18 “ . . . but be filled with the Spirit,”

5:19 “addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with the heart,”

5:20 “ . . . giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,”

5:21 “ . . . submitting to one another our of reverence for Christ.”

5:22 “Wives, submit to our own husbands, as to the Lord.”

5:24 “ . . . so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.”

5:25 “Husbands love your wives, as Christ loved the church . . .”

5:25 “Husbands love your wives . . . (also) gave himself up for her . . .”

5:26 “Husbands love your wives . . . (also) that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word . . .”

5:27 “Husbands love your wives . . . (also) might present the church (wife) to himself (the husband) in splendor.”

5:28 “In the same way (as Christ) husbands should love their wives as their own bodies>”

5:31 “’Therefore a man should leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife”

5:33 “However, let each one of you love his wife as himself . . .”

5:33 “. . . and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

6:1 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.”

6:2 “Honor your father and mother”

6:4 “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger . . .”

6:4 “ . . . but bring them (children) up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”

*6:5 “Slaves, obey your earthly masters with fear and trembling, with a sincere heart, as you would Christ”

6:6 “Slaves . . . doing the will of God from the heart . . .“

6:7 “slaves . . . rendering service with a good will as to the Lord and not to man,”

6:8 “Master, do the same to them (slaves) and stop your threatening . . .”

6:10 “Finally, be strong is the Lord and in the strength of his might.”

6:11 “Put on the whole armor of God.”

*6:13 “Therefore take up the whole armor of God . . .”

6:13 “ . . . stand firm.”

6:14 Stand therefore . . .”

6:14 “ . . . having fastened on the belt of truth . . .”

6:14 “ . . . having put on the breastplate of righteousness . . .”

6:15 “ . . . having put on the readiness given by the gospel of peace.”

6:16 “In all circumstances take up the shield of faith . . .”

6:17 “ . . . take the helmet of salvation . . .”

6:17 “ . . . take . . . the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God,”

6:18 “praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication.”

6:18 “To that end keep alert with all perseverance . . .

6:18 “ . . . making supplication for all the saints . . .”




1:10 “Approve what is excellent”

1:10 “so be pure”

1:10 “so . . . blameless for the day of Christ”

1:11 “be filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ”

1:27 “Let your manner of life be worthy of the gospel”

1:27 “ . . . standing firm in one spirit, with one mind”

1:27 “ . . . striving side by side for the faith of the gospel”

1:28 “not frightened in anything by your opponents”

2:2 “Being of the same mind, same love, in full accord and of one mind”

2:3 “Do nothing from rivalry or conceit”

2:3 “in humility count others more significant than yourselves”

2:4 “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

2;5 “Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus . . .”

2:7 “Have this mind (of Christ) . . . made himself nothing”

2:7 “Have this mind (of Christ) . . . taking the form of a servant”

2:8 “Have this mind (of Christ) . . . he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death”

2:12 “always obey”

2:12 “work out your own salvation with fear and trembling”

2:14 “Do all things without grumbling or questioning”

2:15 “ . . . that you may be blameless and innocent children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation”

2:16 “Holding fast to the word of life”

*3:1 “Rejoice in the Lord”

3:2 “Look out for the dogs, look out for the evil doers, lookout for those that mutilate the flesh”

3:14 “Press towards the goal”

3:15 “Let those of us who are mature think this way”

3:16 “let us hold true to what we have attained”

3:17 “Join in imitating me”

3:17 “keep your eyes on those who walk according to the example you have in us

*4:1 “Stand firm thus in the Lord”

*4:4 “Rejoice in the Lord always”

4:5 “let your reasonableness be known to everyone”

4:6 “do not be anxious about anything”

4:6 “let your requests be known to God”

4:8 “Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things”

4:9 “What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me-practice these things”



1:10 “walk in a manner worthy of the Lord,

1:10 “walk in a manner . . . fully pleasing to Him”

1:10 “ . . . bearing fruit in every good work”

1:10 “ . . . and increasing in the knowledge of God.”

1:11 “May you be strengthened with all power,

1:11 “May you be strengthened . . . for all endurance”

1:11 “ May you be strengthened . . . for all patience with joy

1:12 “Giving thanks to the Father”

1:23 “if indeed you continue in the faith”

1:23 “if indeed you continue . . . stable and steadfast”

1:23 “not shifting from the hope of the gospel that you heard”

2:2 “that their hearts may be encouraged,

2:2 “knit together in love”

2:2 “to reach all the riches of full assurance of understanding and the knowledge of God’s mystery, which is Christ”

2:4 “that no one may delude you with plausible arguments”

2:6 “Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in him”

2:7 “Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus the Lord, . . . rooted”

2:7 “Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus the Lord, . . . and built up and established in the faith”

2:7 “abounding in thanksgiving”

2:8 “See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the element spirits of the world, and not according to Christ”

2:16 “Therefore, let no one pass judgment on you in questions of food, drink, or with regard to a festival or a new moon or a Sabbath.”

2:18 “Let no one disqualify you, insisting on asceticism and worship of angels”

3:1 “Seek the thinks that are above”

3:2 “set your mind on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.”

3:5 “Put to death what is earthy in you”


1 Thessalonians

*2:12 “walk in a manner worthy”

3:11 “increase and abound in love”

3:13 “”establish your hearts”

4:1 “ . . . you ought to live and please God”

*4:3 “abstain from sexual immorality”

4:4 “control your own body”

4:7 “For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness”

4:10 “Live quietly”

4:10 “work with your hands”

*4:18 “encourage one another”

5:6 “let us not sleep, keep awake and be sober”

5:8 “put on the breast plate of faith and love”

*5:11 “encourage one another and build up one another”

*5:13 “Be at peace”

5:14 “Admonish the idle”

5:14 “encourage the fainthearted”

*5:14 “help the weak”

5:14 “be patient with them all” (the fainthearted and weak)

5:15 “see that no one repays anyone evil for evil”

*6:16 “rejoice always” Nicole

6:17 “pray without ceasing”

6:18 “give thanks in all circumstances”

6:19 “Do not quench the Spirit”

6:20 “Do not despise prophecies”

6:21 “test everything”

6:21 “hold fast to what is good”

6:22 “abstain from every form of evil”

*6:26 “greet all the brothers with a holy kiss”

6:27 “have this letter read to all the brothers”


2 Thessalonians

2:13 “But we ought always to give thanks to God for you”

2:15 “stand firm”

2:15 “hold to the traditions . . . either by our spoken word or by our letter”

3:6 “that you keep away from any brother who is walking in idleness

3:6 “that you keep away from any brother who is walking not in accord with the traditions that you received from us.”

3:7 “imitate us”

3:10 “if anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat”

3:12 “do your work quietly and to earn your own living”

*3:13 “do not grow weary in doing good”

3:14 “If anyone does not obey what we say in this letter, take note of that person, and have nothing to do with him”

3:14 “do not regard him (the one not obeying what’s in this letter) as an enemy, but warn him as a brother”


1 Timothy


1:3 “As I urged you . . . so that you may charge certain persons not to teach any different doctrine, nor to devote themselves to myths and endless genealogies . . .”

1”5 “The aim of our charge is love that issues from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.”

1:18 “This charge I entrust to you, . . . that by them you may wage the good warfare, holding faith and a good conscience.”

*2:1 “I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all people . . .”

2:2 “I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made . . . for kings and all who are in high positions . . . ,”

2:8 “I desire then that in every place the men should pray, lifting holy hands without anger or quarreling . . .”

2:9 “likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control . . .”

2:9 “likewise also that women should adorn themselves . . . not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire,”

2:10 “likewise also that women should adorn themselves . . . but with what is proper for women who profess godliness¾with good works.”

2:11 “Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness.”

2:12 “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather she is to remain quiet.”

2:15 “Yet she will be save through childbearing¾if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control.”

3:2 “Therefore an overseer must be above reproach,”

3:2 “Therefore an overseer must be . . . the husband of one wife,”

3:2 “Therefore an overseer must be . . . sober-minded,”

3:2 “Therefore an overseer must be . . . self-controlled,”

3:2 “Therefore an overseer must be . . . respectable,”

3:2 “Therefore an overseer must be . . . hospitable,”

3:2 “Therefore an overseer must be . . . able to teach,”

3:3 “Therefore an overseer must be . . . not a drunkard,”

3:3 “Therefore an overseer must be not violent”

3:3 “Therefore an overseer must be . . . but gentle,”

3:3 “Therefore an overseer must be . . . not quarrelsome,”

3:3 “Therefore an overseer must be . . . not a lover of money.”

3:4 “Therefore an overseer must manage his own household well”

3:4 “Therefore an overseer must manage his own household well, with all dignity,”

3:4 “Therefore an overseer must . . . keeping his children submissive”

3:6 “He (an overseer) must not be a recent convert . . .”

3:6 “He (an overseer) must be well thought of by outsiders . . .”

3:8 “Deacons likewise must be dignified . . . ‘

3:8 “Deacons likewise must . . . not (be) double-tongued . . .”

3:8 “Deacons likewise must . . . not (be) addicted to much wine . . .”

3:8 “Deacons likewise must . . . not (be) greedy for dishonest gain.”

3:9 “They (deacons) must hold the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience.”

3:10 “And let them (deacons) be tested first; let them serve as deacons if they prove themselves blameless.”

3:11 “Their (deacons) wives must be dignified . . .”

3:11 “Their (deacons) wives must . . . not (be) slanders . . .”

3:11 “Their (deacons) wives must . . . (be) sober minded . . .”

3:11 “Their (deacons) wives must . . . (be) faithful in all things.”

3:12 “Let deacons each be the husband of one wife . . .”

3:12 “Let deacons . . . manage their children and their own household well.”

3:14, 15 “I am writing these things to you so that . . . you may know how one ought to behave in the household of God.”

4:4 “For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving . . .”

4:7 “Have nothing to do with irreverent, silly myths.”

4:7 “Rather train yourself for godliness.”

4:11 “Command and teach these things.”

4:12 “Let no one despise you for your youth . . .”

4:12 “but set the believers an example in speech . . .”

4:12 “but set the believers an example . . . in conduct . . .”

4:12 “but set the believers an example . . . in love . . .

4:12 but set the believers an example . . . in purity.”

4:13 “devote yourself to the public reading of Scripture . . .”

4:13 “devote yourself . . . to exhortation . . .’

4:13 “devote yourself . . . to teaching.”

4:14 “Do not neglect the gift you have”

4:15 “Practice these things, immerse yourself in them . . .”

4:16 “Keep a close watch on yourself and on the teaching.”

4:16 “Persist in this . . .”

5:1 “Do not rebuke an older man but encourage him as you would a father . . .”

5:1 (Treat) “younger men as brothers . . .”

5:2 (Treat) “older women as mothers . . .”

5:1 (Treat) younger women as sisters, in all purity.”

5:3 “Honor widows . . .”

5:4 “But if a widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show godliness to their own household, and to make some return to their parents . . .”

5:7 “Command these things as well, so that they may be without reproach.”

5:9 “Let a widow be enrolled if she is not less than sixty years of age, having been the wife of one husband, and having a reputation for good works: if she has brought up children, has show hospitality, has washed the feet of the saints, has cared for the afflicted, and has devoted herself to good works.”

5:11 “But refuse to enroll younger widows . . .”

5:14 “So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households and give the adversary no occasion for slander.”

5:16 “If any believing woman has relatives who are widows, let her care for them.”

5:16 “Let the church not be burdened, so that it may care for those who are truly widows.”

5:17 “Let the elders who rule well be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in preaching and teaching.”

5:19 “Do not admit a charge against an elder except on the evidence of tow or three witnesses.”

5:20 “As for those who persist in sin, rebuke them in the presence of all, so that they may stand in fear.”

5:21 “ . . . I charge you to keep these rules without prejudging, doing nothing from partiality.”

5:22 “Do not be hasty in the laying on of hands . . .”

5:22 “Do not . . . take part in the sins of others;”

5:22 ” . . . keep yourself pure”

5:23 “(No longer drink only water, but use a little wine . . .)”

6:1 “Let all who are under a yoke as slaves regard their own master as worthy of all honor”

6:2 “Those (slaves) who have believing masters must not be disrespectful on the ground that they are brothers . . .”

6:2 “Rather they (slaves) must serve all the better since those who benefit by their good service are believers and beloved.”

6:2 “Teach and urge these things.”

5:11 “But as for you, O man of God, flee these things” (vs. 4-10).

5:12 “Fight the good fight of faith.”

5:12 “take hold of the eternal life to which you were called . . .”

5:13 “I charge you in the presence of God . . . (vs. 14) to keep the commandment unstained and free from reproach until the appearing of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

5:17 “As for the rich in this present age, charge them not to be haughty, nor to set their hopes on the uncertainty of riches, but on God . . .”

5:18 “They (the rich) are to do good, to be rich in good works . . .”

5:18 “They (the rich) are . . . to be generous and ready to share.”

5:20 “O Timothy, guard the deposit entrusted to you.”

5:20 “Avoid the irreverent babble and contradictions of what is falsely called knowledge”


2 Timothy

1:6 “For this reason (your sincere faith) I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God . . . ‘

1:8 “Therefore do not be ashamed of the testimony about our Lord, nor of me his prisoner . . .”

1:8 “ . . . but share in suffering for the gospel . . .”

1:13 “Follow the pattern of the sound words that you have heard from me, in the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus.”

1:14 “By the Holy Spirit who dwells within us, guard the good deposit entrusted to you.”

2:1 “You then, my child, be strengthened by the grace that is in Christ Jesus . . .“

2:2 “ . . . and what you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses entrust to faithful men who will be able to teach others also.”

2:3 “Share in suffering as a good soldier of Christ Jesus.”

2:7 “Think over what I say, for the Lord will give you understanding in everything.”

2:8 “Remember Jesus Christ, risen from the dead, the offspring of David, as preached in my gospel . . .”

2:14 “Remind them of these things, and charge them before God not to quarrel about words“

2:15 “Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.”

*2:16 “But avoid irreverent babble . . .’

2:19 “Let everyone who names the name of the Lord depart from iniquity.”

4:21 “Therefore, if anyone cleanses himself from what is dishonorable, her will be a vessel for honorable use, set apart as holy, useful to the master of the house, ready for every good work.”

2:22 “So flee youthful passions . . .

2:22 “ . . . pursue righteousness . . .

2:22 “ . . . pursue . . . faith . . .”

2:22 “ . . . pursue . . . love . . .”

2:22 “ . . . pursue . . . and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.”

2:23 “Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies . . .”

2:24 “And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone . . .”

2:24 “And the Lord’s servant must . . . be able to teach . . .”

2:24 “And the Lord’s servant must . . . patiently enduring evil . . .”

2:24, 25 “And the Lord’s servant must . . . correcting his opponents with gentleness.”

3:1 “But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty.”

3:5 “Avoid such people” (listed in vs. 2-8).

3:14 “But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed . . .”

4:1, 2 “I charge you in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus . . . preach the word . . .’

4:1, 2 “I charge you in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus . . . be ready in season and out of season . . .”

4:1, 2 “I charge you in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus . . . reprove . . .”

4:1, 2 “I charge you in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus . . . rebuke . . .”

4:1, 2 “I charge you in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus . . . exhort . . .

4:1, 2 “I charge you in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus (to do all the things preceding) with complete patience and teaching.”

*4:5 “As for you, always be sober-minded . . .”

*4:5 “As for you . . . endure suffering . . .”

4:5 “as for you . . . do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry.”



1:7 “Overseer, must be above reproach”

!;7 “ . . . must not be arrogant”

1:7 “ . . . must not be =quick tempered”

1:7 “ . . . must not be drunkard”

1:7 “ . . . must not be violent”

1:8 “ . . . must not be greedy for gain”

1:8 “be hospitable”

1:18 “be a lover of good”

1:18 “be self-controlled”

1:18 “be upright”

1:18 “be holy”

1:18 “be disciplined”

1:9 “must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught”

1:9 “be able to give instruction in sound doctrine”

1:9 ‘be able to rebuke those who contradict it” (sound doctrine)

1:13 “rebuke them sharply that they may be sound in the faith”

2:1 “teach what accords with sound doctrine”

2:2 “ “older men are to be sober”

2:2 “ . . . dignified”

2:2 “ . . . self-controlled”

2:2 “ . . . sound in faith”

2:2 “sound in love”

2:2 “sound in steadfastness”

2:3 “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior”

2:3 “ . . . not slanderers,

2:3 “ . . . not slaves to much wine”

2:3 “They (older women) are to teach what is good”

2:4 “ . . . to train the young women to love their husbands and children”

2:5 “ . . . to be self-controlled”

2:5 “ . . . to be pure”

2:5 “ . . . to work at home”

2:5 “ . . . to be kind”

2:5 “ . . . to be submissive to their own husbands”

2:6 “urge the younger men to be self-controlled”

2:7 “show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works”

2:7 “in your teaching show integrity”

2:7 “ . . . show dignity”

2:7 “ . . . sound speech that cannot be condemned”

2:9 “Slaves are to be subject to their own masters”

2:9 “ . . . to be well-pleasing”

2:9 “ . . . not argumentative”

2:10 “ . . . not pilfering, showing all good faith”

2:10 “ . . . adorn the doctrine of God”

2:11 “renounce ungodliness”

2:11 “renounce worldly passions”

*2:12 “to live self-controlled lives”

2:12 “to live upright lives”

2:12 “to live godly lives in the present age”

2:13 “to . . . wait for the blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ”

2:15 “Declare these things”

2:15 “Exhort . . . with all authority”

2:15 “rebuke with all authority”

2:15 “let no one disregard you”

3:1 “be submissive to rulers and authorities”

3:1 “be obedient”

3:1 “be ready for every good work”

3:2 “speak evil of no one”

3:2 “avoid quarrelling”

3:2 “be gentle”

3:2 “show perfect courtesy to all people”

3:8 “insist on these things,

3:8 “ . . . so that those who have believed in God may be careful to devote themselves to good works”

3:9 “Avoid foolish controversies”

3:9 “avoid genealogies”

3:9 “avoid dissensions and quarrels about the law”

3:10 “As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him”

3:14 “let our people learn to devote themselves to good works”

3:14 “so as to help cases in urgent need”

3:14 “so . . . to not be unfruitful”



17 “Receive him (Onesimus) as you would receive me”

18 “If he wronged you at all, or owes you anything, charge that to my account’

20 “Refresh my heart in Christ”



2:1 “Therefore we must pay much closer attention to what we have heard, lest we drift away”

3:6 “Hold fast our confidence and our boasting in our hope”

3:8 “Do not harden your hearts as in the rebellion, on the day of testing in the wilderness”

3:12 Take car, brothers, lest there be in any of you an evil, unbelieving heart, leading you to fall away from the living God”

3:13 “Exhort one another every day, as long as it is called ‘today’, that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin”

3:14 “We share in Christ if indeed we hold our original confidence firm to the end”

4:1 “Let us fear lest any of you should seem to have failed to reach it (his rest)”

4:7 “ Today if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts”

4:11 “ “Let us strive to enter that rest, so no one may fall by some sort of disobedience”

4:14 “let us hold fast to our confession”

4:16 “Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace”

10:22 Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, with our hearts sprinkled clean from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water”

10:23 “Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering for he who promised is faithful”

10:24 “Let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works”

10:25 “no neglecting to meet together”

10:25 “encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near”

10:35 “Therefore so not throw away your confidence”

12:1 “let us also lay aside every weight and sin which clings so closely”

12:1 “let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus”

12:12 “Lift your drooping head”

12:12 “strengthen your weak knees”

12:13 “and make straight paths for you feet”

12:14 “Strive for peace with everyone”

12:14 “strive for . . . holiness with which no one will see the Lord”

12:15 “See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God”

12:15 “see to it . . . that no ‘root of bitterness’ springs up and causes trouble”

12:16 “See to it . . . that no one is sexually immoral”

12:16 “see to it . . . that no one is unholy like Esau, who sold his birthright”

12:25 “See that you do not refuse him who is speaking”

12:28 “Therefore let us be grateful for receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken

12:28 “let us offer to God acceptable worship, reverence and awe”

*13:1 “Let brotherly love continue”

13:2 “Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers”

13:3 “Remember those in prison”

13:3 “Remember those . . . who are mistreated”

13:4 “Let the marriage be held in honor among all”

13:4 “let the marriage bed be undefiled”

13:5 “Keep your life free from the love of money”

13:5 “be content with what you have”

13:7 “Remember your leaders, those who spoke to you the word of God”

13:7 “consider (leaders) the outcome of their way of life”

13:7 “imitate their (your leaders) faith.

13:9 “Do not be lead away by diverse and strange teaching”

13:9 “For it is good for the heart to be strengthened by grace, not by foods”

13:13 “Therefore let us go to him outside the camp and bear the reproach he endured”

13:14 “For here we have no lasting city, but we seek the city that is to come”

13:15 “let us continually offer up a sacrifice of praise to God”

*13:16 “Do not neglect to do good”

13:16 “do not neglect . . . to share what you have”

13:17 “Obey your leaders and submit to them”

13:22 “bear with my word of exhortation (Letter to the Hebrews)”



1:2 “Count it all joy . . . when you meet various trials”

1:4 “Let your steadfastness have its full effect”

1:4 “that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing”

1:6 “let him ask in faith, with no doubting”

1:9 “Let the lowly brother boast in his exaltation

1:10 “let the rich (boast) in his humiliation”

1:13 “Let no one say when he is tempted, ‘I am being tempted by God”

1:16 “Do not be deceived”

1:19 “Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak”

1:21 “Put away all filthiness and rampant wickedness

1:21 “and receive with meekness the implanted word”

1:23 “be doers of the word and not hearers only”

1:25 “being no hearer who forgets but a doer who acts”

1:17 “visit orphans and widows in their affliction”

1:27 “keep oneself unstained from the world”

2:1 “Show no partiality”

2:8 “love your neighbor as yourself”

2:12 “So speak and so act as those who are to be judged under the law of liberty”

3:13 “By good conduct let him show his works in meekness of wisdom”

3:14 “if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in you hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth”

4:7 “Submit yourselves therefore to God”

4:7 “Resist the devil”

4:8 “draw near to God”

4:8 “Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double minded”

4:9 “Be wretched and mourn and weep”

4:9 “Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom”

4:10 “Humble yourselves before the Lord”

4:11 “Do not speak evil against one another, brothers”

4:15 “Instead, you ought to say, ‘If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that”

*5:7 “Be patient, therefore, brother, until the coming of the Lord”

*5:8 “You also, be patient”

5:8 “establish your hearts”

5:9 “Do not grumble against one another”

5:11 “We consider those blessed who remained steadfast”

5:12 “do not swear; either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your ‘yes’ be yes and your ‘no’ be no”

5:13 “is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray”

5:13 “Is anyone cheerful? Let him sing praise”

5:14 “Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church”

5:16 “Therefore, confess your sins to one another”

5:16 “pray for one another”

5:19 “If anyone among you wanders from the truth and someone brings him back”


1 Peter

1:13 “Therefore, preparing your minds for action . . .
1:13 “ . . . being sober minded . . .”

1:13 “ . . . set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ.”

1:14 “As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance”

1:15 “ . . . but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct . . .”

1:16 “You shall be holy, for I am holy.”

1:17 “conduct yourselves with fear throughout the time of your exile.”

1:22 “Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart . . .”

*2:1 “So put away all malice . . .”

2:1 “So put away . . . all deceit . . .”

2:1 “So put away . . . and hypocrisy . . .”

2:1 “So put away . . . and envy . . . “

2:1 “So put away . . . and all slander.”

2:2 “Long for the pure spiritual milk”

2:11 “. . . abstain from the passions of the flesh”

2:12 “Keep your conduct among the Gentles honorable”

2:13 “Be subject for the Lord’s sake to every human institution, whether it be to the emperor as supreme, or to governors as sent by him . . .”

2:15 “For this is the will of God, that by doing good you should put to silence the ignorance of foolish people.”

2:16 “Live as people who are free, not using your freedom as a cover-up for evil . . .”

2:17 “Honor everyone.”

*2:17 “Love the brotherhood.”

2:17 “Fear God.”

2:17 “Honor the emperor.”

*2:18 “Servants, be subject to your masters with all respect . . .”

2:19 “ . . . mindful of God, one endures sorrows while suffering unjustly . . .”

3:1 “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands . . .’

3:3 “Do not let your adorning be external . . .”

3:4 “ . . . let your adorning b the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit . . .”

3:6 “ . . . if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.”

3:7 “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way . . .”

3:7 “Likewise, husbands . . . showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel.”

3:8 “Finally, all of you, have unity of mind . . .”

3:8 “Finally, all of you, have . . . sympathy . . .”

*3:8 “Finally, all of you, have . . . brotherly love . . .”

3:8 “Finally, all of you, have . . . a tender heart . . .”

3:8 “Finally, all of you, have . . . and a humble mind.”

3:9 “Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling . . .”

3:9 “ . . . on the contrary, bless . . .”

3:10 “ . . . let him keep his tongue from evil . . .”

3:10 “ . . . and his lips from speaking deceit.”

3:11 “let him turn away from evil and do good . . .”

3:11 “let him seek peace and pursue it.”

3:13 “Have no fear of them” (those that would harm you)

3:14 “ . . . nor be troubled”

3:15 “in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy”

3:15 “always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you”

3:15 “yet do it (the defense of the hope) with gentleness . . .

3:15 “yet do it (the defense of the hope) with . . . and respect . . .”

3:15 “yet do it (the defense of the hope) with . . . a good conscience . . .”

4:1 “Since therefore Christ suffered in the flesh, arm yourselves with the same way of thinking”

*4:7 “be self-controlled . . .”

*4:7 “be . . . sober-minded”

4:8 “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly”

4:9 “Show hospitality to one another without grumbling.”

4:10 “As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another”

4:11 “whoever speaks, as one who speaks oracles of God”

4:11 “whoever serves, as one who serves by the strength that God supplies”

4:12 “Do not be surprised as the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you.”

4:13 “But rejoice in so far as you share Christ’s suffering”

4:15 “let none of you suffer as a murderer . . .’

4:15 “let none of you suffer as . . . a thief . . .”

4:15 “let none of you suffer as . . . an evildoer . . .”

4:15 “let none of you suffer as . . . or as a meddler.”

4:16 “Yet if anyone suffers as a Christian, let him no be ashamed, but let him glorify God in that name.”

4:19 “Therefore let those who suffer according to God’s will entrust their souls to a faithful Creator while doing good.”

5:1, 2 “Elders . . . shepherd the flock of God that is among you . . .”

5:1,2 “Elders . . . exercising oversight . . .

5:1, 2 Elders . . . (do it) not under compulsion . . .”

5:1, 2 Elders . . . (do it) willingly as God would have you . . .”

5:1, 2 “Elders . . . (do it) not for shameful gain . . .”

5:1, 3 Elders . . . (do it) not domineering over those in your charge . . . “

5:1, 3 Elders . . . (do it) being an example to the flock.”

5:5 “Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the elders.”

5:5 “Cloth yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another . . .”

*5:6 “Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you. . .”

5:7 “casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.”

*5:8 Be sober-minded . . .”

5:8 . . . be watchful.”

5:9 “Resist him (the devil), firm in your faith.”

5:12 “Stand firm in it (what I have written, the true grace of God)

5:14 “Greet one another with the kiss of love.”


2 Peter

1:5 “make every effort to supplement your faith . . .“

1:5 “make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue . . .“

1:5 “make every effort to supplement your faith . . . virtue with knowledge . . .“

1:5, 6 “make every effort to supplement your faith . . . and knowledge with self-control . . .“

1:5, 6 “make every effort to supplement your faith . . . and self-control with steadfastness“

1:5, 6 “make every effort to supplement your faith . . . and steadfastness with godliness . . .“

1:5, 7 “make every effort to supplement your faith . . . and godliness with brotherly affection . . .“

1:5, 7 “make every effort to supplement your faith . . . and brotherly affection with love.“

1:10 Therefore, brothers, be all the more diligent to make your calling and election sure . . .”

1:10 “. . . for if you practice these qualities (1:5-7) you will never fall.”

1:19 “And we have something more sure, the prophetic word, to which you will do well to pay attention . . .”

3:2 “that you should remember the predictions of the holy prophets and the commandment of the Lord and Savior through your apostles”

3:8 “But do not overlook this one fact, beloved, that with the Lord on day is as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day.”

3:11 “Since all these things (the earth and heavens) are thus to be dissolved, what sort of people ought you to be in lives of holiness and godliness, waiting for and hastening the coming of the day of God . . .”

3:14 “Therefore, beloved, since you are waiting for these (3:11-13) be diligent to be found by him without spot or blemish . . .’

3:14 Therefore, beloved, since you are waiting for these (3:11-13) be diligent to be found by him . . . and at peace.”

3:15 “Count the patience of the Lord as salvation . . .”

3:17 “You therefore, beloved, knowing this (vs. 16) beforehand, take care that you are not carried away with the error of lawless people and lose your stability.”

3:18 “But grow in grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.”


1 John

1:7 “but if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his son cleanses us from all sin.”

1:9 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

2:5 “ . . . but whoever keeps his word, in him truly the love of God is perfected.”

1:6 “ . . . whoever sways he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked.”

2:10 “Whoever loves his brother abides in the light and in him there is no cause for stumbling.”

5:15 “Do not love the world or the things in the world.”

5: “. . . but whoever does the will of God abides forever.”

2:24 “Let what you heard from the beginning abide in you.”

5:28 “And now, little children, abide in him.”

5:29 “. . . you may be sure that everyone who practice righteousness as been born of him.”

3:3 “And everyone who thus hopes (3:1-2) in him purifies himself as he is pure.”

3:6 “No one who abides in him keeps on sinning . . .”

3:7 “Little children, let no one deceive you.”

3:11 “. . . we should love one another.”

3:12 “We should not be like Cain . . .”

3:13 “Do not be surprised, brothers, that the world hates you.”

3:16 “. . . we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers.”

3:18 “Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.”

3:23 “. . . that we believe in the name of his Son Jesus Christ and love one another, just as he has commanded us.”

4:1 “Beloved, do not believe every spirit . . .”

4:1 “. . . test the spirits to see whether they are from God . . .”

4:7 “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God . . .”

5:18 “We know that everyone who has been born of Go does not keep on sinning . . .”


2 John

*Vs. 5 “Love one another”

Vs. 9 “who ever abides in his teaching has both the Father and the Son.”

Vs. 10 “If anyone comes to you and does not bring this teaching, do not receive him into your house or give him any greeting.”


3 John

Vs. 8 “Therefore we ought to support people like these” (vs. 7).

Vs. 11 “Beloved, do not imitate evil but imitate good.”



Vs. 3 “I . . . write appealing to you to contend for the faith that was once for all delivered to the saints.”

Vs. 17 “But you must remember, beloved, the predictions (vs. 18, 19) of the apostles of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Vs. 20 “But you, beloved, building yourselves up in the most holy faith . . .”

Vs. 20 “But you, beloved, building yourselves up . . . praying in the Holy Spirit . . .   ‘

Vs. 20, 21 “But you, beloved, building yourselves up . . . keep yourselves in the love of God . . .”

Vs. 20, “But you, beloved, building yourselves up . . . waiting for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ that leads to eternal life.”

Vs. 22 “And have mercy on those who doubt”

Vs. 23 “save others by snatching them out of the fire . . .”

Vs. 23 “. . . to others show mercy with fear, hating even the garment stained by flesh.”



1:3 “Blessed is the one who reads aloud the words of this prophecy . . .”

1:3 “. . . and blessed are those who hear, and who keep what is written in it . . .”

2:5 “”Remember therefore from where you have fallen;”

2:5 “. . . repent, and do the works you did at first.”

2:10 “Do not fear what you are about to suffer.”

2:10 “Be faithful until death.”

2:16 “Therefore repent . . .”

2:25 “Only hold fast what you have . . .”

2:26 “The one who conquers and who keeps my works until the end, to him I will give authority over the nations.”

2:29 “He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches.”

3:2 “Wake up, and strengthen what remains and is about to die . . .”

3:3 “Remember, then, what you received and heard.”

3:3 “Keep it (what you received and heard) and repent.”

3:11 “Hold fast what you have, so that no one may seize your crown.”

3:19 “so be zealous and repent.”

22:7 “And behold, I am coming soon. Blessed is the one who keeps the words of the prophecy of this book.”

22:17 “’Come.’ And let the one who hears say, ‘Come.’ And let the one who is thirsty come.”

* Possible duplication

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“Sexual Atheism”

“Sexual Atheism”

In today’s world, the first sexual experience of most people is a sinful one. It comes in some form of premarital sex, from hooking up to an engaged couple having sex before their wedding date.

A couple that maintains their virginity until their wedding night is rare. Kenny Luck recently posted an article on The Christian Post: “Sexual Atheism: Christian Dating Data Reveals a Deeper Spiritual Malaise.” He reports on a study conducted by ChristianMingle.com, where Christian singles between the ages of 18 to 59 were asked, “Would you have sex before marriage?” The response? Sixty-three percent of the single Christian respondents indicated yes. He goes on to say that nearly nine out of ten self-proclaimed single Christians are in practice, sexual atheists. He defines a sexual atheist as “God having nothing to say to them on the subject of consequence or, at least, anything meaningful enough to dissuade them from following their own course of conduct.”

Some have argued that something so pleasurable could never be wrong or sinful. The Bible is consistently positive about sex within marriage, and completely opposed to sex outside of marriage. Now we live in a world where unlimited sexual activity is now considered an entitlement. The real issue is, from whom are we going to get our instructions from about sexual activity—God, or the world around us?

It is old and forgotten news, but in 1994 U.S. News and World Report and Time magazine both reported on the “most authoritative” survey ever on sex in America. The University of Chicago’s National Opinion Research Center found that “fidelity reigns.” Married couples have the most sex and are most likely to have orgasms.” “Most couples reported marital bliss in bed; they have sex more often and enjoy it more than singles.” One recent sex study showed that the most sexually fulfilled women in America were conservative Protestants.

It should be obvious, but sex did not evolve, nor was it the result of sin. God designed it and did so for a purpose. Marriage was instituted for the purpose of developing a unique union between one man and one woman, for life. A man and a woman leaving their families of origin “shall become one flesh” (Gen. 2:24). God placed sex exclusively in the context of that union. He not only put His stamp of approval on having sex in marriage, but also makes the sexual fulfillment of one’s spouse a personal priority.

“Each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her sexual rights, and likewise the wife to her husband” (1 Cor. 7:2, 3). So important is sexual relations in a marriage, that we “Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time” (vs. 5). And you must have really good reason for doing so, “that you may devote yourselves to prayer.” Think about what the Word of God is saying: “but then come together again.” Even prayer is not to be so important that you neglect your sexual relationship for an extended time. Sex from God’s perspective is that sexual desire is to be regularly fulfilled at home between a husband and a wife, and never withheld by either spouse.



Who Is in Control?

“Most of us have never really understood that Christianity is not a self-help religion meant to enable moral people to become more moral. We don’t need a self-help book; we need a Savior. We don’t need to get our collective act together; we need death and resurrection and the life-transforming truths of the gospel.” -Counsel From the Cross, by Elyse Fitzpatrick and Dennis Johnson

We would all agree that a “sex addict” is controlled by evil desires. More accurately, a sexual sinner is control by what they want. What about the rest of us? Paul said “we all once lived in the passion of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind” (Eph. 2:3). All of us, whatever our family of origin, have this same influential sinful background. We all lived in the passion of our flesh, doing what we wanted. That is, we were controlled by what we wanted. The biblical view is that sin comes from within. Past events may trigger sin, but they don’t create the triggers. We are internally driven by a commitment to carry out our own desires. The desires that controlled us were the desires of the body and the mind. The truth is that those who are not really following Christ are controlled by what they want. Outwardly a Christian, there is no change from the inside out, just a level of external conformity!

Every man wants respect. That desire is often expressed in having a successful career or ministry. Is he controlled by what he wants? Our true motives are not a deep mystery. Wrong motives and desires will never bear the fruit of righteousness. There will be bad fruit exhibited in handling competition, criticism, neglect of wife and family, along with anger and depression. This is the fruit that indicates that the man is controlled by what he wants.

The problem of unfaithfulness also illustrates my point. Betrayal and deception always go together when a spouse is unfaithful. No longer wanting to be deceived, a wife, discovering her husband’s unfaithfulness, wants to know the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. She wants the honest truth, but is she controlled by what she wants?

We all have desires, but sinful desires often disguise themselves as our expectations, felt needs, goals, wishes, and longings. Legitimate desires can conceal the truth that we are ultimately controlled by what we want. When we follow the desires of the body and mind we can fall into sexual sin. But those same desires of the mind can rule a person as strongly as an “addiction.” In fact, legitimate desires for money, reputation, security, love, success, comfort, looks, career, and meaningful marriages are so subtle and deceitful that we easily justify such desires and end up being controlled by what we want.

How do we know if we are controlled by what we want? The wife wants the “honest truth.” Yet once that honest truth is told, despair often increases. “How do I know you are being fully honest with me?” “How do I know you will be honest with me in the future?” If she is being controlled by what she really wants—never to be deceived again—she will not find peace. “A sinful fear is the craving for something not to happen” (David Powlison). What is the true motive of her heart? If a wife wants her husband to change and be sexually pure in order to control her fear—getting what she really wants—she will reveal the true motive and desire of her heart by being manipulative, fearful, angry and suspicious. This is the fruit that is certain indication that she is controlled by what she wants. On the other hand, if her desire is to be faithfully loved by her husband and to have him right with God, she will reveal the “hidden person” in her heart and the “beauty of a gentle quiet spirit as she loves and respects her husband. Such beauty, with love and respect is the fruit that reveals that God is in control.

The problem in the heart isn’t that we want something. We could want something good, something bad. In either case, the core problem is that we demand to have what we want. Everyone who has been betrayed must forgive the past without attempting to control the future so that it never happens again. The desire is right, but being controlled by the desire destroys the relationship. It will put the person in a position of suspicion and fear and leave them spiritually and sexually immature.

I can hear all the objections: “What’s wrong with wanting my husband to be faithful?” There is nothing wrong with desire! No one wants pain, rejection or abandonment. What is wrong is when that desire rules you rather than God. That results in the obvious outward displays of anger, complaining, and despair. Real truth brings peace and contentment in all circumstances. True followers of Christ in difficult circumstances “walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to Him, bearing fruit in every good work” (Col. 1:10). A husband and wife in the difficult circumstances of marital unfaithfulness can, through the work of God in their hearts, come to see what rules them. They can repent and find God’s grace that brings real change from the inside out. God doesn’t take away our ability to desire. He has promised to change what we really want; to want what He wants. We can have new desires and motives that rule our hearts and dramatically change behaviors and relationships.

Recommended Resources

Radical: Taking Back Your Faith From the American Dream, by David Platt. This book is radical because it will challenge you to look at how we have manipulated the gospel to fit our needs. What does the Christian lifestyle actually look like? Pastor Platt gives sound biblical answers.

The Sovereignty of God, by Arthur W. Pink. Are you confused about the sovereignty of God? This doctrine is so “diametrically opposed to the natural pride of the human heart” we need to by faith develop it in our hearts as a sound doctrine and then live responsible lives.

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Sexual Redemption?

After nearly three decades of helping individuals and couples, and based on a continual study of the Bible, I’ve reached this conclusion: To be spiritually mature, you must be sexually mature; to be sexually mature, you must be spiritually mature. That in brief is the message of my new book Undefiled and the essence of sexual redemption.

Sexual redemption involves more than resolution of sexual problems and challenges. For example, most Christian couples know that God designed fulfilling sex for marriage but many fail to experience it. Trying “seven tips to enhance your love life” may bring some excitement but there’s more to sexuality than romantic techniques. Sexual redemption is larger than a fulfilling sex life in marriage.

And how might sexual redemption relate to childhood sexual abuse? I started my counseling career working with incestuous families and since then have counseled hundreds of men and women sexually abused as children. The violation of another person sexually is very harmful. Forgiving your abuser is an important first step, but there is more to understanding our fragile sexuality than that. Sexual redemption takes us beyond the healing of past wounds and calls us to glorify God spiritually and sexually.

Sexual redemption also addresses any clinging shame related to premarital sex. Of the three thousand people of counseled through our intensive counseling program, 40 percent were in full time Christian work. Yet I estimate conservatively that less than 20 percent were virgins when they married.

Remaining a virgin until marriage, a practice all but lost within the church, is still God’s standard. But being a virgin or a “technical virgin” on your wedding night isn’t all that God intends. Sexual redemption is living spiritually and sexually for a purpose other than a self-seeking agenda.

The way we handle our sexuality and spirituality is meant to show the supremacy of Christ. We know—or we should know—that this is true, but do we really understand it and own it in our hearts? Every person is a sexual being, created in the image of God. Now that sounds inviting, but the truth is we also are all fallen sinners. If we separate our sexuality and spirituality into different compartments, we not only diminish our sexual beauty, our sexual purity, and our sexual meaning but also our very soul. Our soul and our sexuality are profoundly connected, and yet we have lost this correlation between knowing Christ and sexual wholeness.

Knowing Christ is to govern all of our sexuality and all of our spirituality in a way that expresses the image of God and demonstrates that we are walking worthy of our calling. The loss of holy spirituality and holy sexuality brings into question our sexual redemption and whether we know God as we should.

Undefiled is about a full sexuality and a full spirituality that can only be found by finding satisfaction in God and God alone. This book is also about dedicating your sexuality, your spirituality, your life—all for His highest. Sexual redemption begins at the cross, is rooted in a change of heart, and is lived out in a relationship before and after two sinners say “I do.”

There’s no shortcut through the process of acknowledging sin and experiencing redemption. But there’s also no need to think that the process will take years before true change begins! No follower of Christ ever has to say about any problem, “I guess I will always be an addict or trapped in bondage to sin.” No, no, no, no! That is not the message of the gospel.

Let God work. Regardless of how you got to where you are, don’t limit God now because of your fears. Your marriage may be hanging by a thread. I know you may be thinking, We’ve tried everything and nothing has worked. Why should this be any different? Nothing is going to change!

All I ask is that you not limit God. He cares and I can tell you that I have seen incredibly real, lasting change in many, many couples.
So boldly ask the question: “What sexual redemption would I like to see in my life and marriage?”

The above article is an excerpt from Undefiled: Redemption From Sexual Sin, Restoration for Broken Relationships (Moody Publishers, 2009).

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Keeping the Marriage Bed Undefiled

We all probably know at least one person who has been unfaithful to their spouse, or their spouse has been unfaithful to them. Still, it is hard to get a handle on how many married people have been unfaithful, given the inherent secrecy. Many of the statistics about infidelity floating around the internet are dubious. Some say that as many as 50% of wives and 70% of husbands have cheated on their spouse. The following are statistics I found online:

  • 22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.
  • 14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives.
  • Younger people are more likely candidates; in fact, younger women are as likely as younger men to be unfaithful.
  • 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses’ extramarital activity.
  • 90 percent of Americans believe adultery is morally wrong.
  • Up to 37% of men and 22% of women admit to having affairs.
  • Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship.
  • About 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at some point in some marriage.

Statistics are disturbing to read but can be held at arm’s length until they become personal. When a couple becomes part of the statistics and is battling the horror of adultery in their marriage, it is very, very personal and the agony is real. Through the study of scripture and counseling hundreds couples struggling to survive unfaithfulness, I’m convinced that adultery is preventable. I recently taught a seminar for pastors at the Moody Bible Institutes’s Pastor’s Conference: “Keeping Your Marriage Bed Undefiled.” Click the following link to purchase and download this seminar. My book that deals with this subject from a biblical foundation, Undefiled: Redemption from Sexual Sin, Restoration for Broken Relationships, is available with a pre-order discount on amazon.com.

Pastor Joseph Garlington, Senior Pastor, Covenant Church of Pittsburgh
says this about Undefiled:

“The often quoted saying, ‘When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.’ holds true in this recent work of Dr. Harry Schaumburg. The Church of Jesus Christ is thoroughly enmeshed in one moral crisis after the other, and we have been in desperate need for a truly biblical answer to this crisis. Several thousand years ago, someone said, “…Increased years should teach wisdom.” It is evident that Dr. Schaumburg’s years of experience and his commitment to a thoroughly biblical approach to dealing with this issue has produced a work that shines with penetrating light into the one of the darkest areas of 21st century Christian life. I commend this work as a handbook for study in every church, as a resource to every pastor who has or will face this matter in their ministry and as a diagnostic tool for personal evaluation of one’s own life and walk. No pastor’s library should be without this wonderful tool. If Undefiled is taken seriously, it could produce a sea change in Christian behavior.”


Be Sure Your Sins Will Find You Out

Sin is never acceptable to God! Putting ourselves first is wrong for in so doing sin is always a disregard for God and others. While we justify the public expression of such sins as anger, gossip, malice, enmity, strife, jealousy, slander, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, and lying, the Word of God is very clear: “You must put them all away . . . “ (Col. 3:8, 9; Gal. 5:19-21). Consider the warning “that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God” (Gal. 5:21). Paul’s point is that those who make a practice of doing such things are showing a pattern of life and giving clear indication of their inward, hidden, spiritual status. Simply put, they are not born of God; they are not children of God. True believers do not habitually violate what is planted on the inside.

Realize that such public sins are always exposed; obviously to God, but also everyone who cares about a breach of righteousness. Sins are committed in the open, we don’t care who sees. We don’t care if God sees and hears it all, nor do we seriously consider what people think. This is supreme arrogance! Without question, your sins have found you out. What is in the heart has been revealed.

Secret sins are no different. This sexual sinner is just more foolish. He or she knows that the sin, if discovered, will be denounced by all: a marriage could be lost, a family destroyed, a career ended, health ruined, finances decimated, and some will be incarcerated. We shouldn’t be surprised by the lies and level of deception used to hide the sin. After all, sinful arrogant logic dictates a cover up. The stupidity in this type of sin is not the harmful lying in and of itself, but the level of foolishness that is indicated by the cover up. No one said it more directly than the Apostle John, “Whoever makes a practice of sinning is of the devil (public or secret sin), the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the works of the devil” (1 John 3:8).

Enter the technological age of the Internet, cell phone, and digital camera. In the dark ages of pornography−not that long ago−you could throw the porn away after looking at it or succeed hiding your stash. Those days are gone. Once the Internet became the primary means of accessing pornography, discovery went up dramatically. It wasn’t long before wives found the evidence of cybersex, children stumbled on to their parent’s problem, and employers got wise to the misuse of time. God, in His providential knowledge and sovereign oversight, uses technology to let others know what he knows. God wants to expose sin. With arrogance we foolishly respond with the new “porn mode.” On August 25, 2008, Microsoft officials confirmed that the company would provide private browsing, a k a “porn mode,” with Internet Explorer (IE) 8 Beta 2. With its private browsing feature called “InPrivate,” Microsoft is allowing users to cover their online tracks. Don’t be fooled; God is bigger than Microsoft. Your sins will still be found out because God is full of grace and mercy toward the sexual sinner.

Teenagers are now “sexting” with their cell phones. I can’t imagine teens in my day taking indecent Polaroid pictures of themselves or of one another and passing the photos out at school. This is child pornography and a crime, and now teens are being arrested for such activity. Be sure your sins will find you out.

Street View isn’t as good as God’s surveillance of our secret lives. Nevertheless, you have to be impressed with how God uses technology to expose sin. A wife filed for divorce after spotting her husband’s car parked outside another woman’s house. In and of itself this is not new, but with Google’s Street View the wife was able to confirm her suspicions by the surveillance of a friend’s home and seeing her husband’s car there. Watch out; God sees everything. While we have a long way to go before we match His ability, other sinners are now catching sinners on camera. The motives and intentions of the heart are definitely at work for both the sinner and the suspicious spouse. No telling who is watching what!

“You have sinned against the Lord, and be sure your sin will find you out” (Numbers 32:23). The actual rendering is “you will suffer for your sin.” God reigns, not chance. He is visional; He sees all! Be careful what you do; “there’s a Father up above looking down in tender love,” as the children’s chorus goes. He knows whether you are faithful and He doesn’t tolerate unfaithfulness from anyone. This is not a human judge who determines the merit of the evidence collected by a third party and renders a guilty verdict if evidence is admissible. This is a Judge who sees the crime himself and sits in final judgment. The verdict is never in doubt. The marvelous wonder is that Christ himself has borne the penalty of our guilt!

If we know Christ, it is an all-out war against all sin, because it is an all-out war against the devil; therefore a fight against the practice of all sinning. There is no neutrality. Which side are you on? “Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire and covetousness, which is idolatry. On account of these the wrath of God is coming” (Col. 3:5, 6). You can’t run; you can’t hide. Be decisive and make a break from the practice of sinning. Your life depends upon it.

Coming in September−Undefiled: Redemption From Sexual Sin, Restoration for Broken Relationships, by Harry Schaumburg, bestselling author of False Intimacy.

Amid the chaos of cybersex, impersonal sex, adultery, homosexuality, and sexual dissatisfaction in marriage, Undefiled calls readers toward a new kind of sexual revolution. Sexual impurity creates a vicious circle, one that springs from misconceptions about Christ and further taints our understanding of Him. Yet another circle is available to men and women trapped in sin, a circle of sexual redemption.

When practiced as God intends, spirituality and sexuality both draw us closer to Christ. Spiritual maturity and sexual maturity go hand-in-hand, and together they hold out the promise of redemption and restoration needed by everyone who has been damaged by sexual sin.

There is hope. Real change is possible; true intimacy is available. To the person who has failed time and time again sexually, God’s message is simple: You, too, can be undefiled.


Fireproof Your Life and Marriage

In the movie Fireproof, a powerful statement is made about the power of God to transform sexual behavior and a troubled marriage. For eighteen years, our Brief Intensive Counseling program has offered the same truth and witnessed the same power in the reality of countless hundreds of marriages destroyed by pornography. In my new book, Sexual Redemption, to be released next year by Moody Publishers, I spell out the details of God’s transforming power.

Our ministry not only attempts to meet the felt needs of lives and marriages broken by sexual sin, but also to awaken faith and courage when evil prevails. To live in the truth is always rock-solid; to live in perpetual comfort and fulfillment is shifting sand. Our purpose for everyone who comes for help is to convey an understanding that sin and evil, no matter how horrific, never nullifies the purpose of God. In fact, horrific sins exist in God’s unfathomable providence and by them His purposes come to pass. If this is the rock-solid truth on which we stand, then with our worst enemy—including an unfaithful spouse—we can learn that, “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians 13:7). Love is always active, never passive. It covers all things, patiently endures all things, always supports, never gives up, and it always endures. Peter writes, “love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Pet. 4:8). This is not a soft love without wisdom and discernment; rather, “Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good” (Rom. 12:9).

Fireproofing your life and marriage is more than living by the superficial tactics of many of today’s Christian gurus or reading the best-selling Christian self-help book. The path to fireproofing your life and marriage is through death; the death of our sin, the denial of ourselves and a life-long commitment to the purpose and glory of God. The secret simplicity of fireproofing our lives and marriages from all sexual unfaithfulness, whether of the heart or physical, is found in the following seven biblical essentials:

1st Biblical Essential: A Consistent Diet of “Meat” Heb. 5:11-14

  1. To be skilled in the word of righteousness
  2. To have the powers of discernment
  3. To distinguish good from evil

2nd Biblical Essential: A Rigorous Training in the Grace of God Titus 2:11, 12

  1. To renounce ungodliness
  2. To renounce worldly passions
  3. To live self-controlled, upright and godly lives

3rd Biblical Essential: A Well-Established Heart James 5:8-11

  1. To be patient
  2. To not grumble
  3. To remain steadfast

4th Biblical Essential: A Determined Effort to Supplement Faith 2 Peter 1:5-11

  1. To increase these qualities
  2. To not lack these qualities
  3. To practice these qualities

5th Biblical Essential: A Strict Departure from the Old Life Col. 3:5-14

  1. To put to death what is earthly
  2. To put away; put off the old self
  3. To put on the new self

6th Biblical Essential: A Restless Diligence Heb. 2:1; 3:12

  1. To avoid unbelief
  2. To not be hardened
  3. To be firm to the end

7th Biblical Essential: A Concerted Effort Must Be Made Heb. 12:15-16

  1. See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God.
  2. See to it that no root of bitterness springs up.
  3. See to it that no one is sexually immoral.
  4. See to it that no one is unholy like Esau.

On a biblical basis we must hate our sin, repent of our sin, and seek to kill our sin. The process must be promoted in our hearts; not for self-serving purposes, the avoidance of serious consequence, or for the preservation of a marriage. This is all done for the glory of God. Any attempt to deal with sexual sin must be founded on the admonition of Paul: “For if you live according to the flesh you will die, but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live” Romans 8:13.